Half this city has sat in my consulting room, which complicates things
Posted as patients_everywhere
- Looking for
- somebody outside my professional world entirely
- Experience
- Twenty years leading, two dynamics, both extremely private.
- Around
- Pinheiros, São Paulo
I have practised in the same part of this city for twenty two years and the arithmetic of that has become a problem. I cannot walk into a social gathering without a reasonable chance of meeting somebody who has undressed in my office, and there is no version of this in which that is workable for either of us.
Fifty, São Paulo, dominant, twenty years. Both of my dynamics were conducted entirely away from anything organised, and the second one lasted eleven years, and almost nobody knew.
What I need is somebody outside all of it: not a patient, not a colleague, not connected to the hospital, and preferably not living in the neighbourhood I work in. That is a smaller filter than it sounds in a city this size and it has still eliminated two promising conversations.
What I want is a long domestic dynamic. Service, standing rules, protocol with a purpose, correction that is verbal. Very little impact. Nothing that would ever require an explanation.
I am not going to attend anything, ever. If being part of a wider circle matters to you, I am the wrong person and I would rather say so than let it become a slow disappointment.
I live alone, I can host, and my hours are long and reasonably predictable.
I would like to know somebody for a while first. My working life is entirely made of short intense encounters with strangers and I have no appetite for another one in my own time.