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Dominants Pinheiros, São Paulo

I reply to every message, which apparently makes me unusual

Posted as i_answer_everything

Looking for
a submissive who wants daily contact and will actually keep it up
Experience
Eleven years leading, two dynamics, both built on daily writing.
Around
Pinheiros, São Paulo

I answer everybody. Even the ones I am not interested in, with a short polite no, because it takes forty seconds and because I remember what it was like at twenty two to send fifteen messages into silence. Two people have told me this makes me suspicious, which says more about this board than about me.

Thirty three, São Paulo, dominant, eleven years. The reason I am like this is that daily contact is the actual substance of what I do. Both of my dynamics ran on writing: instructions in the morning, a report at night, a proper conversation once a week, and time together twice a week on top.

That means what I need most from a submissive is not obedience in a room. It is somebody who will still be writing in month seven, on the days when nothing has happened and there is nothing interesting to report and it would be easier to skip it.

Almost everybody can do this for a fortnight. Perhaps one in five can do it for a year. I have learned to ask about it early and to believe people when they say it sounds like a lot.

I want structure, service, and correction that is verbal and consistent. Very little impact.

I live alone, I can host, and my work is flexible.

I would like to be friends first for a month or two. Not as a filter, though it works as one. I simply prefer knowing somebody.

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