We want to make friends first and we mean it literally
Posted as dinner_then_maybe
- Looking for
- another couple, for dinners, for months, before anything else
- Experience
- Together ten years, this openly between us for five.
- Around
- the south zone, São Paulo
The last couple we met properly, we knew for eleven months before anything happened, and by then we had been to a wedding together and looked after their dog twice. That is how we like it and it is why we are slow to reply to messages that open with a list of preferences.
We are thirty four and thirty seven, São Paulo, together ten years. He leads and I do not, and it has been part of us openly for five years and quietly for longer than that.
What we want is another couple to actually know. Dinners, birthdays, the whole ordinary business of friendship, with the difference that we would not have to edit ourselves. Both of us have close friends who have no idea, and after five years that omission has started to feel like a wall in the middle of every conversation.
If, after a long time, that friendship grows into something more involved, we would be delighted and we would talk about it for months first. If it does not, we will have gained two friends, which is not a consolation prize.
We are in the south of the city, we can host, and we cook enough for eight people whether or not eight people are coming.
We would want both of you in the conversation from the start. And we would rather you were not in a hurry, because we are not, and the couples we have got on with best were the ones who were also happy to take a year.