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Couples the east zone, São Paulo

Two of us who cannot leave the business, in town one weekend a month

Posted as once_a_month_in_town

Looking for
people in the middle of the city who can plan a month ahead
Experience
Together nineteen years, a dynamic between us for seven.
Around
the east zone, São Paulo

We live over the business, right out at the edge of this city, and it cannot be left unattended for more than about thirty six hours. That single sentence explains everything about how we do this and why we are difficult to know.

We are forty eight and fifty one, together nineteen years, and she has led for seven of them. We come into the middle of the city one weekend a month, we stay two nights, and that is the entire window in which anything social can happen.

What we have learned is that this only works with people who plan. Spontaneity is not available to us. If somebody cannot commit to a date four weeks out, we will never meet them, and we have lost three promising friendships that way without any bad feeling on either side.

What we want is a small number of people we see regularly on those weekends. Friends first, over a long time, and possibly a submissive man for her eventually, and we would want that to develop over a year rather than a season.

We are also completely happy to have people come out to us. There is room, it is two hours from the middle of town on a bad afternoon, and there is nothing whatsoever to do out here, which some people find restful and others find alarming.

We are discreet because on a street like ours there is no such thing as an unfamiliar car outside the gate, and that is not paranoia, it is how everybody around here lives about everything.

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