A neighbourhood where everybody knows whose car that is
Posted as everyone_here_talks
- Looking for
- a submissive across town, or right here and equally careful
- Experience
- Twenty years leading, three dynamics, all of them invisible.
- Around
- the far south zone, São Paulo
I live in a neighbourhood of about ninety thousand people, two hours from the middle of this city on a weekday morning, and everybody here knows everybody's car, everybody's cousin and everybody's business. That is not a complaint. It is the condition, and after twenty years I am very good at operating inside it.
Fifty two, São Paulo, dominant. Three dynamics, all conducted so quietly that not one person in my life has ever suspected any of it, the longest running nine years with a woman who lived at the other end of the city.
What that taught me is that the distance was an advantage rather than an obstacle. Nobody here saw anything. Nobody there knew who I was. It gave us a privacy that neither of us could have had locally.
So I am looking either across town, or right here, in which case you will already understand every word of this post and we will both be extremely careful.
What I run is domestic and long. Standing rules, service, daily contact, correction that is spoken. Very little impact and nothing that would ever require an explanation to anybody.
I would want to know somebody for a long time first, mostly in writing, and I would want a first meeting somewhere neither of us lives.
I am not interested in anybody who finds the discretion romantic. It is not romantic. It is tiring, it costs things, and I have done it for twenty years because the alternative in a place like this is not doing it at all.