Nothing here is walkable and it changes how any of this works
Posted as everything_is_a_drive
- Looking for
- a submissive who drives, or who is happy to stay
- Experience
- Fifteen years leading, two dynamics, both here.
- Around
- the south zone, São Paulo
This city grew on the assumption that everybody would be in a car, and it was right, and it has consequences for a private life that nobody thinks about until they live here. There is no dropping in. Nothing is round the corner. Every meeting is forty minutes in traffic minimum and a decision about whether anybody is drinking.
Thirty eight, São Paulo, dominant, fifteen years. Both of my dynamics were with people who drove, and I do not think that is a coincidence, and I have stopped pretending it is not a practical requirement.
What it also produces, and this is the part I have come to like, is that everything here happens at somebody's home. There are no casual encounters. People plan, they arrive, they stay for hours. It suits the kind of dynamic I run, which is domestic and unhurried and does not want an audience.
What I want is a long arrangement. Standing rules, service, protocol with a purpose, correction that is spoken. Very little impact.
I live alone in a large apartment and I can host, always, and would generally prefer to.
The other thing about this city is the turnover. People arrive for a job and leave when it ends, and I have twice built something with somebody who was gone within two years. I am not going to make that a rule, but I will ask early, and I would rather you were honest.
I am direct and I answer messages and I do not play games about availability.