I am not going to be the person who fixes your life
Posted as not_your_therapist
- Looking for
- a submissive who is already well and wants to be led anyway
- Experience
- Sixteen years leading, three dynamics, one of them exhausting.
- Around
- the centre, São Paulo
About a third of the messages I receive are, underneath the wording, an application for someone to take over the running of a life that has gone wrong. I understand the impulse completely and I have twice said yes to it, and both times it took a year to unpick and neither person ended up better off.
Forty three, São Paulo, dominant, sixteen years. What I am saying is not that I want somebody without difficulties. Everybody has difficulties. I am saying that I am not a treatment, and that a dynamic which is holding a person together is not a dynamic, it is a job, and I am not qualified for it.
What I want is somebody who is already managing. Who has their own friends, their own income, their own way of dealing with a bad month, and who wants to hand over a defined part of their life to me because it is a pleasure rather than because it is a rescue.
Inside that, what I offer is proper structure. Standing rules, service, daily contact, correction that is consistent, and a great deal of attention.
I am warm in person and blunt in writing and people find the combination confusing at first.
I am in the centre, I live alone, I work regular hours.
If you are in a bad stretch right now, that is not a permanent no, and I would rather you wrote to me in a year. I have said that to two people and one of them did, and it is one of the better things that has happened to me.