The winter here takes me out of circulation for four months
Posted as i_come_out_in_november
- Looking for
- somebody who will still be there when the weather turns
- Experience
- Ten years, three dynamics, two of them started in summer.
- Around
- the south zone, São Paulo
People do not believe that this city has a winter and they certainly do not believe what it does to me. From June to September it is grey for weeks together, and I do not go out, I do not answer messages well, and I am generally poor company, and I have been like this since long before I had a word for it.
Fifty one, São Paulo, submissive, ten years. Two of my three dynamics began in November, when I am a completely different person, and both of them ran into their first winter and did not survive it.
I am not asking anybody to fix this. I take it seriously, I have help, and I manage. What I am asking for is somebody who understands in advance that there are four months of the year when I need structure more and can offer less, and who will not read a slow reply in July as a verdict.
What I want inside a dynamic is exactly the thing that carries me through it: rules that do not stop, small daily obligations, someone expecting a report whether or not I feel like producing one. My best year in this was the one where somebody simply did not let the structure lapse in August.
I live alone, I can host, and I work from home three days a week.
I am posting in May, at the beginning of the difficult part, deliberately. If you meet me now you will meet the harder version first, and that seems like the fairer way round.