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Submissives the north zone, São Paulo

Transferred here, and possibly transferred out again

Posted as posted_here_for_now

Looking for
somebody who can want something with an uncertain end
Experience
Twelve years, three dynamics, two ended when I was moved.
Around
the north zone, São Paulo

I have been moved three times in twelve years and each time I have had between two and four months of notice. I am here now and I may be here for a decade or I may be in another state next year, and anybody who tells you they can predict it has not worked in this system.

Forty three, São Paulo, submissive, twelve years. Two of my three dynamics ended with a transfer and neither ending was anybody's fault, and both of them left me quite careful about how I start things.

This city is full of people in exactly my position, which is the strangest thing about it. Half the people I know arrived for a job and are waiting to find out how long they are staying. It gives the whole place a peculiar temporary quality that people who grew up here find offensive and that I have come to find restful.

What I want is a long dynamic, honestly begun, with the uncertainty stated at the top rather than discovered in year two. Structure, rules, service, daily contact. Very little impact.

I live alone in an apartment provided with the job, I can host, and my hours are extremely regular in a way that this city is unusual for.

I am also open to something conducted partly at a distance, since I may end up doing that anyway.

Not looking for anybody who wants a promise I am not able to make. I have made it twice and broken it twice and I am finished with that.

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