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Submissives the far south zone, São Paulo

My family would never recover from this, and they never will know

Posted as sunday_with_my_family

Looking for
somebody who understands total discretion and does not test it
Experience
Nine years, three dynamics, all of them completely hidden.
Around
the far south zone, São Paulo

I am from a family where this would not be a disagreement, it would be an ending. My parents, my brother, the church they have gone to every week of my life. I love them and I am not going to lose them, and I am also not going to spend the rest of my life pretending I do not want any of this. Both of those are true and I have stopped trying to resolve them.

Fifty two, São Paulo, submissive, nine years. Three dynamics, none of which anybody in my life knows about, the longest running four years.

What discretion means in practice: no photographs of my face at any point, nothing written down with my name on it, nothing that would ever put us in the same room as anybody who knows me. I am careful in a way that some people have found insulting and I understand why, and it is not about you.

What I want is something long, quiet and domestic. Rules I keep on my own during the week, contact most days, and time together perhaps twice a month.

I am aware that this reads like a man hiding a wife. There is no wife. There is a mother of eighty who I visit every Sunday, and there is no version of this where she finds out.

I would rather say all of it now than have it come out in pieces and look like evasion, which is what happened with the last person and which was entirely my fault.

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