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Submissives the centre, São Paulo

Twenty six, studying, and my map is very small

Posted as nowhere_i_can_get_to

Looking for
someone nearby, patient, and not put off by a student timetable
Experience
A year and a half, no dynamic, several long conversations.
Around
the centre, São Paulo

I am a student, I live in a shared house near the university with four other people, and my world extends about as far as I can walk. That is the practical situation and it eliminates most of what gets proposed to me, so I am putting it at the top.

Twenty six, São Paulo, submissive, about eighteen months of reading and talking and nothing else. Two long conversations that went well and then ended when it became obvious that neither person was ever going to travel to this part of the city and I could not travel to theirs.

What I want is structure, which is convenient, because structure is free. Rules about how I study and sleep and eat. Tasks. Someone who expects a report and notices when it does not arrive. I am extremely good at doing what I am told and extremely bad at making myself do anything.

I have a lot of free time in the day and almost none in the evening for three months of the year around examinations, and I will say so in advance rather than vanish.

I cannot host. There is always somebody in the kitchen.

I would like to be friends first, partly because I want that and partly because I am aware I am new and broke and easy to take advantage of, and a friendship makes that much less likely.

Not looking for anybody who wants to be generous with me. I have had two offers and both made me uncomfortable in a way I could not immediately explain.

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