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Submissives the far south zone, São Paulo

São Paulo, and I will take about a year to open up

Posted as slow_to_trust

Looking for
somebody who is not going to rush the first six months
Experience
Eight years, two dynamics, both slow to start and long to end.
Around
the far south zone, São Paulo

People in this city find me hard work and they are not wrong. I am from Minas, I have been here eleven years, I am forty, and I take about a year to genuinely trust somebody. It is not suspicion. It is simply the pace I was raised at, and everybody I grew up with is the same, and it makes for friendships that last thirty years and first meetings that go absolutely nowhere.

Forty, São Paulo, submissive, eight years. Two dynamics, both of which took months to become anything and then ran for years.

What that means practically is that I am a bad prospect for anybody who wants to know within a month whether this is going somewhere. I will be warm, I will be present, I will answer everything, and I will still be slightly holding back at week twelve, and there is nothing I can do to speed it up.

What I want is a long domestic arrangement. Rules, service, correction, someone who knows my week. Nothing that requires me to be dramatic, because I am not.

The circle I found here is small and connected and everybody has known everybody since about two thousand and fifteen, which is why I am on a board rather than asking around.

I live alone, I can host, and my hours are regular.

If you are also from up there you already know everything in this post and probably found the first paragraph unnecessary. If you are not, please read it twice, because it is the whole thing.

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