I do not want a scene, I want somebody to know me for years
Posted as the_long_acquaintance
- Looking for
- one person prepared to be in this for a very long time
- Experience
- Fifteen years, two dynamics, one of eleven years.
- Around
- Vila Madalena, São Paulo
The best thing about my eleven year dynamic was not anything that happened in a room. It was that by year six she knew, from the way I answered the phone, whether I had eaten, whether I had slept and whether something at work had gone wrong. Nobody has known me like that before or since.
Forty six, São Paulo, submissive, fifteen years. That dynamic ended four years ago when she moved to Portugal, and we parted well, and I have spent four years discovering that what I miss is not obedience. It is being known.
So this post is not really about activities and I am not going to list any. What I am looking for is somebody who wants to be in something for a decade. Somebody who will still be asking me the same three questions in year five and will notice when the answers change.
I understand that this is not a thrilling advertisement. I also think a great many people on this board want exactly this and write about implements instead, because it is easier.
I work long hours in a hospital, I live alone, I can host, and my free time is real but irregular.
I am not looking for anything intense at the start. I am not looking for anybody who is between things. And I am not looking to be compared with somebody's previous arrangement, which I am aware is a rich complaint from a person who has spent this whole post comparing.