We both work somewhere that makes discretion absolute
Posted as two_careful_people
- Looking for
- a couple who understand caution without needing it explained
- Experience
- Together fifteen years, a dynamic between us for eight.
- Around
- the far south zone, São Paulo
We both work in institutions where a rumour is enough to cause a problem, and we are not going to be more specific than that, which is itself an illustration of the post.
We are forty one and forty four, in São Paulo, together fifteen years, and he has led for eight of them. We have never told anybody. Not one person, in eight years.
What we are looking for is another couple with the same constraints, because we have found that people who do not have them cannot really be persuaded to take them seriously. Not out of carelessness. It is simply that if your job would survive this becoming known, you will forget, once, and once is enough.
What that means in practice: no photographs, ever. No names beyond first ones. Nothing written that connects any of this to either of us. Meeting at a home rather than anywhere public, after we have met somewhere public a few times. No events of any kind, in any city.
What we want beyond the caution is quite warm and quite ordinary: friends who know, dinners, conversation, and eventually perhaps more, with a great deal of talking first.
We are aware that this post is mostly a list of restrictions. We are considerably better company than it suggests and we are both very tired of having no one to talk to.
We would want both of you writing and we would want to go slowly, which given everything above is not going to be a problem for anybody.