I live at the far end of the north zone and it matters
Posted as the_long_way_home
- Looking for
- somebody realistic about how long it takes to reach me
- Experience
- Three years, one dynamic, ended when he stopped travelling.
- Around
- the north zone, São Paulo
Getting home takes me an hour and twenty on a good day and I have to think about the last stretch of it after dark. That single fact shapes every plan I make, and I have learned to put it in writing rather than let somebody discover it when I leave a good evening at nine thirty.
Twenty nine, São Paulo, submissive, three years. My one dynamic lasted a year and ended honestly enough: he lived at the other end of the city, he had made the journey for months, and one day he said he could not keep doing it. I did not argue because he was right.
What I want is either somebody on this side of the city, which would be the easiest thing in the world and which almost nobody seems to be, or somebody who can host and is happy for me to stay rather than turn around and go back.
I want structure more than anything. Rules about how I run my week, tasks, someone who notices when I have not done something. I work in a school office, my hours are fixed, and my evenings are free but expensive in travel.
I am cheerful and direct and I will tell you if something is wrong, which took me two years to learn.
Not looking for anybody who has never thought about how the other person gets home. It sounds like a small thing. It has been the deciding factor in everything I have tried.