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Dominants the inner city, Sydney

I am out of the country every January and I am saying so in June

Posted as no_january

Looking for
one submissive for something long, close and quite intense
Experience
Thirteen years, two arrangements that ran longer than a year.
Around
the inner city, Sydney

I am away every January. The whole month, out of the country, no exceptions, and I have been doing it for six years. I am putting that in a post written in June because two people found out about it in December and both of them, reasonably, felt it should have come up rather earlier.

Thirty nine, the inner city, dominant, thirteen years in. Eleven months of the year I am extremely available. I live alone, I work from home, and I can host almost any evening.

What I want is one submissive for something long and quite intense. I run things closely. Daily contact, standing rules, and a level of attention that some people find suffocating and others describe as the first time anybody has properly paid attention to them. There is not much middle ground and I have stopped looking for one.

The January absence is a real test of a dynamic, as it happens. Anything that cannot survive four weeks of no contact was not built properly. Both of the arrangements that lasted more than a year came back in February exactly where they had left off.

Not looking for anybody who needs daily reassurance. Not looking for occasional. Not looking to negotiate about January, which is the one month of the year that belongs to me and has done since well before any of this.

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