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Dominants the eastern suburbs, Sydney

Everything I have been part of took months, and people ask about it at week eight

Posted as the_slow_build

Looking for
one submissive over thirty who reads patience correctly
Experience
Twenty four years, and nothing worthwhile has ever started quickly.
Around
the eastern suburbs, Sydney

Nothing I have ever been part of that mattered started quickly. Every good dynamic I have had took four to six months to become itself, and in every one of them there was a point around week eight where the other person asked, more or less politely, when we were going to get on with it.

Fifty two, the eastern suburbs, dominant, twenty four years in. I am not slow because I am cautious. I am slow because the thing I am interested in cannot be assembled at speed. What I want is authority that has been earned in small ordinary ways over months, so that by the time anything significant happens it is barely remarkable to either of us.

In practice the first two months are mostly conversation and small commitments. Things that take five minutes and mean nothing on their own. People who stay past that point tend to stay for years.

I am looking for one submissive, any gender, over thirty, for something long. I can host. I am precise about language and I will correct yours, which some people love and others find intolerable.

Not looking for anybody who wants a scene in the first month. Not looking for somebody who reads patience as a lack of interest. Not looking for anybody who is between things and wants something to fill a gap, because this will not fill it fast enough to be any use to you.

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