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Switches the inner city, Sydney

Twenty eight, five housemates, and the most available person you will meet

Posted as five_housemates

Looking for
something ongoing in either direction, anywhere that is not my house
Experience
Three years, several short things, nothing that lasted a year.
Around
the inner city, Sydney

There are five of us in the house and one bathroom, and my bedroom shares a wall with the living room, which means my entire life in this happens somewhere that is not where I live.

Twenty eight, the inner city, switch, three years in. I know how common this is here and I also know how quickly it ends conversations, so I am leading with it. I cannot host. I will probably not be able to host for years. That is the housing market and neither of us is going to be clever enough to solve it.

What I can do is travel anywhere, at almost any hour, at very short notice. No dependants, no car payments, no fixed commitments beyond work. I am the most available person you will meet on here, which is worth something even if it is not worth a spare room.

What I want is something ongoing rather than a run of evenings, in either direction. I lead with people who are new to me and bottom with people who are not, which I have only recently noticed about myself and find slightly embarrassing.

Not looking for anybody who wants to come to mine, which I promise is not coyness. Not looking for a first meeting anywhere expensive, since we are being honest about money. Not looking for anybody who will describe me as young, which happens constantly and always means something specific.

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