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Couples the eastern suburbs, Sydney

Four weeks away every January, and one arrangement that ran four years

Posted as away_every_january

Looking for
a submissive woman for a long fortnightly arrangement
Experience
Fourteen years together, nine of them open about this, one long arrangement.
Around
the eastern suburbs, Sydney

Every January we are gone for four weeks. It is the only month either of us can take off together and it has been the same arrangement for nine years. Anybody who meets us now should know that in about five months we will disappear completely and then reappear.

Forty five and forty seven, the eastern suburbs, together fourteen years, nine of them with this openly in the marriage.

What we want is a submissive woman for a long arrangement, seen fortnightly, with contact in between. We are not in a hurry and we have done this once before. That arrangement lasted four years, ended when she met somebody and wanted to concentrate on it, and we sent flowers.

We are both quite formal about how we do this. There is a conversation before anything happens, a review every few months, and a habit of writing things down that comes from having got it badly wrong early on with somebody who assumed a number of things we had never actually said.

She leads. I am present and involved and I am not the one making decisions, which is an arrangement people often need explained twice. Not looking for anybody who wants an equal relationship between three people, because this is not that. Not looking for somebody who needs weekly contact. Not looking for anything that has to happen in January, obviously.

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