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Couples the north shore, Sydney

Six years together, two households, and the harbour between them

Posted as across_the_water

Looking for
one submissive for something regular, ongoing and slow to build
Experience
Six years together, both of us in this a good deal longer than that.
Around
the north shore, Sydney

Six years together, and living on opposite sides of the harbour the entire time, which everybody tells us is the reason it has lasted. She is on the north shore, I am in the inner west, we see each other three or four nights a week, and neither of us has any plans to change it.

Forty and forty three, together six years, both of us in this for considerably longer than that.

What we are looking for is one submissive for something regular and ongoing, and the two households turn out to matter. Two places, two sets of privacy, no shared building and no shared neighbours. It also means we have never had to do the thing couples do where everything gets negotiated inside one set of walls.

We are both dominant. That took a year of getting it wrong. What we settled on is that anything involving a third person happens with all three of us present, and that neither of us ever speaks for the other.

Realistically whoever this is will be doing some crossing, and we are not going to pretend that is nothing in this city. Not looking for anybody who wants a household to belong to, because there is not one. Not looking for somebody who is really interested in one of us and being polite about the other. Not looking to rush any part of it.

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