I am the submissive one, he is not dominant, and we are looking together
Posted as he_is_not_part_of_it
- Looking for
- a dominant woman comfortable with a friendly, uninvolved husband
- Experience
- Twenty five years of theory and one weekend in my thirties.
- Around
- the north shore, Sydney
I am submissive. My husband is not dominant and never has been, and after twenty five years we have stopped waiting for that to change. We are looking together for a dominant woman for me, with him present in the arrangement but not participating in it.
Fifty eight and fifty nine, the north shore, together twenty five years, married for twenty two.
I know how unusual that sounds. The reason he is in the post at all is that we do everything together and it would be strange for something this significant to be conducted behind him. He wants to meet whoever this turns out to be. He wants to like her. He does not want to be in the room for most of it and he is entirely at ease with that, which took us a while and a great deal of talking.
What I want is a long arrangement, formal, with a woman who is comfortable with a husband who is friendly and completely uninvolved. I am experienced only in theory: twenty five years of reading and thinking, and one weekend in my thirties.
Not looking for anybody who wants to bring him in gradually, which two people have proposed as though it were obviously the goal. Not looking for anything at our house until much later. Not looking to be told that this is really about our marriage, which it is not, and which we have both discussed at length with somebody qualified to ask.