One of us is trans, and here is what we will and will not discuss
Posted as questions_we_decline
- Looking for
- friendship first with people whose interest is not curiosity
- Experience
- Five years together, both switches, both in this beforehand.
- Around
- the inner west, Sydney
One of us is trans. We are putting that in the first line because we have learned that if we do not, it becomes the whole of the third conversation, and if we do, most of the wrong people simply do not write.
Thirty three and thirty five, the inner west, together five years, both of us in this since before we met.
What we will talk about: what we like, what we do not, how we negotiate, what we want from somebody, and anything at all about how the three or four of us would actually work. What we will not talk about: surgery, hormones, names, or anything from before we met each other. Those are not secrets. They are simply not part of getting to know us, and being asked in the second message tells us everything we need to know.
What we want is friendship first with other people in this, and then, with somebody we like, something more. Both of us switch. We would happily meet a couple or a single person of any gender.
Not looking for anybody whose interest in us is mostly curiosity, which is easy to spot and does get spotted. Not looking for anybody who wants to tell us how progressive they are, which is its own kind of tiring. Not looking to be anybody's first anything.