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Couples the inner city, Sydney

A couple, posting once, looking for two entirely separate things

Posted as not_a_package_deal

Looking for
a submissive man for her and a dominant woman for him, separately
Experience
Ten years together, open for six, with rules that have survived both.
Around
the inner city, Sydney

There are two of us and we are not looking together. We are looking separately, we each know exactly what the other is doing, and we are posting once rather than twice because pretending to be two single people on the same board seemed dishonest.

Thirty eight and forty, the inner city, together ten years, open for six of them and fairly clumsy about it for the first two.

So there are two of us in this post and two different things being asked for. She is dominant and is looking for a submissive man for something long and structured. He is submissive and is looking for a dominant woman, likewise. Neither of us is involved in the other's arrangement, neither of us needs to meet anybody, and there is no scenario in which the four people concerned end up in one room, which we mention because it is the first thing everybody asks.

What we can both promise is that there is no hidden partner about to be upset. We have been doing this a long time. The rules are boring, written down, and have survived two arrangements that lasted years.

Not looking for anybody who wants a couple. Not looking for anybody who treats an open marriage as a puzzle with a solution. Not looking to be talked at about whether this really works, because it does, and the evidence is ten years long.

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