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Switches the inner city, Sydney

I do nothing between May and September and I am posting anyway

Posted as nothing_in_winter

Looking for
something that starts in writing now and becomes real as it warms
Experience
Fourteen years, and four springs spent starting again from nothing.
Around
the inner city, Sydney

I have not seen anybody since the start of May. Every year the same thing happens: it gets cold, it gets dark early, my house is freezing, and I stop doing anything at all that involves leaving it. By September I emerge and wonder where four months went.

Forty two, the inner city, switch, fourteen years in. I am posting at the beginning of it, deliberately, because if I wait for spring I will be starting from nothing again for the fifth year running.

So what I am proposing is something that begins slowly and mostly in writing for the next few weeks and becomes a real thing as it warms up. That is not hedging. It is an accurate description of what I can offer in May and what I will be like in October, and they are quite different people.

What I want is one partner, both directions, for something long. I lead more often than not. I am considerably better company than this post makes me sound, in about six weeks.

Not looking for anybody who wants to meet this week, unless they are prepared for a very quiet person in a very cold room. Not looking for anybody who thinks the winter thing is an excuse. Not looking to be persuaded out for anything in the evening before the clocks change.

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