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Submissives the west, Sydney

Nightfill four nights a week, so my whole life happens in the afternoon

Posted as nightfill_and_nothing

Looking for
a dominant who is free during the day, which I know is almost nobody
Experience
Two years, a great deal of reading and very little practice.
Around
the west, Sydney

I do nightfill in a supermarket. Ten at night until six, four shifts out of seven, and it suits me. It pays better than the daytime version, nobody talks to me, and I get the whole afternoon while the rest of the city is at a desk.

Twenty seven, the west, submissive, two years in and not much to show for them. My family is Vietnamese and I live with my parents and my grandmother, which is entirely normal where I am from and apparently surprising to about half the people I speak to on here. It means I cannot host and it means I am careful.

What I want is a dominant who is free during the day, at least sometimes. Afternoons are the whole of my availability and they are the one part of the week when almost nobody can do anything. I know that narrows this to a very small number of people. I would rather post honestly and wait than collect replies from people who will be asleep when I am awake.

I am new enough to still be embarrassed about not knowing things. What I think I want is structure and somebody strict about it, and I am prepared to be told that what I think I want and what I actually want are two different things.

Not looking for anybody who wants to meet late at night, which is when I am at work. Not looking for anybody who finds the living situation funny.

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