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Submissives the north shore, Sydney

Add three months to anybody who says the harbour is not a problem

Posted as bridge_not_detail

Looking for
somebody on this side of the water, or genuinely honest about the trip
Experience
Twelve years, four dynamics, all four ended over the same thing.
Around
the north shore, Sydney

When somebody in the inner west tells me the harbour is not a problem, I have learned to add three months and then wait. It is always a problem. Not at first. At about week seven, on a wet Tuesday, when the traffic is stopped and neither of us can face it.

Forty one, the north shore, submissive, twelve years in. I have had four things end this way and not one of them ended over anything else.

So I am being blunt about geography, which I know reads as narrow. I want somebody on this side of the water, or somebody in the inner city who is honest with themselves about doing that trip most weeks for a long time. If you have not done it regularly you do not yet know whether you will keep doing it, and I would rather you found out before I am attached to you.

Otherwise: a long dynamic, weekly, with real structure and a fair amount of formality in it. I am not interested in occasional. I have tried occasional and it made me feel like an errand somebody was running.

I can host. I live alone, my place is quiet and warm, which in this city is a genuine boast. Not looking for anybody who will tell me the trip is nothing. Not looking for a first meeting that requires either of us to cross anything at the wrong time of day.

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