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Dominants the eastern suburbs, Sydney

One evening a week, and no, I am not apologising for it

Posted as one_evening_by_choice

Looking for
a submissive with a full life who is relieved this fits inside it
Experience
Nine years, three dynamics, all of them deliberately contained.
Around
the eastern suburbs, Sydney

One evening a week, and I want to be clear that this is not a limitation I am apologising for. It is the size I want the thing to be. I have a full life that I am fond of and I am not looking for something that expands into the rest of it.

Thirty seven, the eastern suburbs, dominant, nine years in. Most posts that mention limited availability are apologetic about it. Mine is not, and I think that is a meaningful difference for whoever this suits.

What I offer inside that evening is complete attention and a great deal of preparation. I plan. I think about it during the week. Nobody who has been in this with me has ever described it as a small thing, however few the hours were.

Between evenings there is contact but not a lot of it. A few messages. Nothing that requires either of us to perform intimacy on a schedule. If you want daily structure and constant supervision then I am the wrong person, and there are people on this board who genuinely want to provide exactly that.

What I am looking for is a submissive who also has a full life. Somebody busy and competent and slightly relieved that this fits into one evening rather than colonising everything. Not looking for a live in anything. Not looking to be anybody's main source of company. Not looking for somebody who starts asking for a second evening in month three, which has happened twice and ended it both times.

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