Yes, I am the one in charge. No, the lease does not care
Posted as cannot_host
- Looking for
- one submissive for something structured that does not need a house
- Experience
- Five years, all of it arranged somewhere neither of us lived.
- Around
- the inner city, Sydney
I am a dominant who cannot host, which appears to break something in people's heads. I share a flat in the inner city with two other people because that is what rent is here, and no amount of me being organised and in charge changes the fact that somebody is in the kitchen at all hours.
Thirty one, five years in. I have lost count of the number of times somebody has said but you are the dominant, as though the lease were subject to protocol.
What I have instead is a very high tolerance for planning and no embarrassment about it whatsoever. I will find somewhere. I will arrange it. I am extremely good at making something feel unhurried and inevitable in a place neither of us lives, and it is a skill I would never have developed if I had a house.
What I want is one submissive, long term, for something structured and demanding. I like protocol and rules that run through the week. Most of what I do is not physical at all, which helps considerably given the circumstances.
Not looking for anybody who wants me to be older and wealthier than I am, which is a specific fantasy I have run into a great deal. Not looking for somebody who only wants to be led at their place on their terms. Not looking to be told to get my own place, which I am aware of, thank you, and am working on.