Weekday mornings or nothing, and it is not a problem to be solved
Posted as only_in_the_daytime
- Looking for
- a dominant of any gender for both of us, in the daytime
- Experience
- Sixteen years together, seven with this, one arrangement of two years.
- Around
- the eastern suburbs, Sydney
We have children at home, which means our availability is weekdays between about half past nine and two, and nothing else at all. Not evenings. Not weekends. Not with notice, not with planning, not for something special.
Forty two and forty four, the eastern suburbs, together sixteen years, seven of them with this.
Everybody thinks this is a solvable problem for about the first month. It is not. We have tried, and the result was two people being disappointed on a regular schedule. So we are looking for the small number of people whose lives allow a Tuesday morning: shift workers, people who work from home, people between things, people who have arranged their week deliberately.
What we want is one person for something regular and long. A dominant, of any gender, for both of us. We are both submissive, which is settled and has been for years, and it is the single hardest thing to find in a couple's post because everybody assumes at least one of us must be leading.
Not looking for anybody who needs evening contact. Not looking to meet at ours until we know somebody well, for reasons that should be obvious. Not looking for anybody who treats a daytime arrangement as second best, which it is not, and which the person we saw for two years described as the most civilised thing she had ever been part of.