My rules are written for the days we cannot see each other
Posted as when_it_snows
- Looking for
- a submissive who wants a dynamic rather than a series of evenings
- Experience
- Ten years, two long dynamics, both of them highly organised.
- Around
- downtown, Toronto
Half of what I do is designed for the days we cannot be in the same room, because in this city there are a great many of them and pretending otherwise builds something that collapses every January.
Thirty seven, downtown, dominant, ten years. What that looks like in practice: a set of standing rules that do not require my presence, a check in that happens daily whatever else is going on, and a short list of things that change when a day is cancelled, rather than the day simply being lost. Somebody once described it as having a bad weather timetable, which is exactly right, and I have used the phrase ever since.
I am telling you this first because it is the most useful thing about me and it is deeply unromantic. I am organised. I write things down. I remember what you told me in March.
What I am looking for is a submissive who wants a dynamic rather than a series of evenings. Somebody who finds a structure steadying rather than restrictive, and who is honest when they have not managed something, because the reporting is the entire mechanism and a person who fails quietly and says nothing breaks it completely.
I live alone downtown and can host, though the walls are what they are. Not looking for a scene partner. Not looking for anybody who goes quiet for a fortnight and reappears without mentioning it. Not looking for somebody who wants to be surprised, because I will always tell you the plan.