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Couples the east end, Toronto

Nine years together and we have never lived in the same place

Posted as two_addresses

Looking for
one submissive woman for something occasional and quite structured
Experience
Nine years together, six of them with this, both of us dominant.
Around
the east end, Toronto

Nine years together, and we have never shared an address. We each have our own place, a twenty minute drive apart, we see each other four or five nights a week, and roughly once a year somebody tells us we will grow out of it.

Forty one and thirty eight, both in the east end and near it, together nine years, six of them with this as part of things.

The arrangement is directly relevant to what we are looking for, which is one submissive woman for something occasional and quite structured. Two homes means two sets of privacy, two sets of neighbours who know nothing about each other, and none of the logistics that couples on this board usually apologise for. It also means we are used to arranging our lives deliberately rather than by default, and we think that shows in how we do this.

We are both dominant, which took a while to work out between us, and we do not compete about it. Anything concerning all three of us is discussed with all three present, and nobody ever carries a message from one of us to the other.

Occasional means once or twice a month. Long term means we would like it still to be happening in two years. Not looking for anybody who wants to join a household, because there is no single household to join. Not looking for somebody who is really interested in one of us. Not looking to move quickly at all.

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